Fetishes You Didn’t Know Were This Popular

Let’s be honest—when it comes to sex, everyone’s a little weird. The good news? So is everyone else.

At My Spicy Vanilla, we've had a peek behind the digital bedroom door, thanks to thousands of completely anonymous story prompts from our users. And what we've learned is that the definition of “normal” is… let’s say, elastic.

Here are 24 fetishes you might not expect to be wildly popular—but according to our data, they absolutely are. Let’s take a sensual stroll through the kinkier corners of the imagination:

1. Cuckolding
   Fantasizing about your partner with someone else… and actually getting off on it. Spicy? Yes. Taboo? Also yes. Common? More than you'd think.
   
   
2. Humiliation
   Red cheeks and vulnerable moments—except here, the embarrassment is entirely erotic.
   
   
3. Mind Control
   From hypnotic commands to puppet-like obedience, control is the ultimate turn-on for many.
   
   
4. Size Difference
   Tiny meets towering. Delicate meets dominant. The contrast is the kink.
   
   
5. Orgasm Control
   Permission to finish? Denied. Or maybe granted. Either way, it’s power play at its finest.
   
   
6. Tease and Denial
   Almost there… and then not. The slow burn is very much the point.
   
   
7. Chastity
   What if not touching becomes the sexiest act of all?
   
   
8. Crossdressing
   Silk panties, lace bras, and a healthy disregard for gendered clothing expectations.
   
   
9. Pet Play
   Obedient, playful, a bit feral. Don’t forget the collar.
   
   
10. Financial Domination
    When power shifts from the bedroom to the bank account.
    
    
11. Sensory Deprivation
    Blindfolds, earplugs, and the delicious thrill of not knowing what comes next.
    
    
12. Transformation Fetish
    From human to something… else. Fantasy fuel of the wildest kind.
    
    
13. Feminization
    Pretty in pink—and very much at someone else’s mercy.
    
    
14. Verbal Humiliation
    A sharp tongue can cut deep. And arouse even deeper.
    
    
15. Age Play
    Big age gaps, roleplay dynamics, and playful power shifts.
    
    
16. Reluctance Fantasy
    All about the push and pull. Erotic tension turned all the way up. (Always consensual.)
    
    
17. Breeding Kink
    “Filling you up” just got a lot more literal—and a lot more popular.
    
    
18. Muscle Worship
    Admiring strength in all its flexed, tensed, dominant glory.
    
    
19. Tickling Fetish
    Giggling, squirming, and the helpless thrill of being pushed to your edge.
    
    
20. Sissification
    Turning macho into maid—subversion has never looked so sexy.
    
    
21. Clothing Fetish
    Leather, latex, lace… Sometimes what you wear is the main event.
    
    
22. Hypnosis Fetish
    Tranced, entranced, and totally under their spell.
    
    
23. Objectification
    Becoming a plaything. Or a piece of furniture. It’s a thing. Literally.
    
    
24. Public Humiliation
    The thrill of being watched, judged, and maybe even exposed… just a little.